Our experiences shape our emotions which shape our values which shape our identity.
That was a loaded statement. Let me break that down for you real quick… you with me?
Experiences – Humans are the only species in the world that develop knowledge of the self based on our experiences (read more on this here). Chimpanzees, Orangutans and dolphins have some concept of this in their early years, but humans, as early as age two, know who we are, what we look like, what we like or dislike. Ok, I got a little too off topic there…. all of that is based on experience – what mommy and daddy allowed our infant self to experience – where we went, what we did, talked about, who we saw, touched, felt, experienced! Fast forward to now as an adult self, we are jam packed with all of these experiences that we attach certain emotions to. Shall I pause for an example?
“ I feel lazy today. I don’t want to go to the gym….and I know I have always been this lazy person. I remember when I was a kid I was also this way…couldn’t get me to run across the soccer field for nothing (my experience). So, what makes today any different”
Emotions – How do you feel? Happy, sad, angry, excited? We have so many emotions that we feel across so many points in the day, and they all tie back to those experiences. So you’re feeling lazy, and you don’t want to go to the gym. Well, how do you want to feel?
Wait! Before you answer that. Let me throw my next your point your way.
Values – What is important to you? So, you’re feeling lazy and you don’t want to go to the gym. Well, what’s important to you? When it comes to the particular area of your life – health and fitness – what is important to you? Why is that important to you? Your answer to these questions are values. Values drive our emotions which drive our experiences.
Identity – It is who we are, who we decide to be – every day when we wake up and every night when we rest our head on the pillow. If, and when, we are able to determine our identity, the answers to all the aforementioned questions become so simple! What is important to you when it comes to your health and fitness? How do you want to feel? Will you get out of bed and get to the gym or continue to lie there? Just as our identity shapes our values which shapes our emotions which shapes our experiences, so do our experiences shape our emotions which shape our values which shape our identity.
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Let’s answer these questions together, team!
– Coach Kari